Every morning, like many parents, I drive my kids to school. It’s about a 5- mile drive so, of course we listen to music. But not the same music from radio channels blaring the news and drama of Hollywood, we listen to an iPod or music from Pandora which I have installed on my iPhone.
This morning I left my phone behind because I left it off the charger last night. When the girls asked for the music to be on, I told my daughters I just wanted to have a quiet ride to school. A ride where I could enjoy them, their conversations and focus on the day ahead. So after a little bit of debate about leaving the car radio off and just “hearing” silence, we started to talk to one another about how the place called “the Silence” can be so significant. Like teenagers, they didn’t get the conversation and I bid them a good day accompanied with the “I love you” that we also share the 180 days we leave each other at the school’s entrance. As I drove home I started to think more and more about the place. The “place” called Silence.
One of the things I encourage clients when they are searching for answers in sessions is to go internally. Shut their eyes, go out of their heads and into their hearts. The biggest complaint I get when they don’t go into this “void” is that they “can’t” come up with solutions, when eyes are open they must search their conscious mind for answers thinking what they have to offer might satisfy what I want to hear. Why is Silence such a Scary Place?
Which brings me to Carolyn. She is one of my coaching clients who is a kinesthetic personality. I HAVE to do things with her that involve movement. My advice to her was that as she hikes and gets to the highest point of her hike, simply sit down, embrace the silence and listen to the wind blow. There and only there is she in her “place of Silence”. What Carolyn said to me is that things have become more clear to her in this “place” because mind chatter has quieted and there is no white noise or interference from the world that she created. A world that was once created with a single thought, a thought that developed from silence.
Thoughts both great and not so great emerge from the nothingness of silence. Your creativity comes out of this void. Why is it so hard to accept that our very essences emerged from emptiness? Creation requires some period of just being STILL… In order for the proverbial batteries to be charged we must remove tensions and anxiety. We must reacquaint ourselves with going into the quiet and listening. Closing not only our mouths and shutting down our own motors is how we both can heal and inspire. For years doctors have told their patients, you need rest. I know when I have a migraine in order for me to heal and be “normal”, I must find rest, void of noise and chatter! Rest in the Silence.
In silence, too, you make your personal and conscious contact with your Higher Power /God. Have you ever been fully involved in meditation or prayer when the atmosphere you are in is hustling and bustling? How’d that work for you? It is a FACT that we live in a time where Silence and Peace can be somewhat elusive. It is with silence that we know peace. Mother Theresa once said…”God is a Friend of Silence.” In that, she called to mind the movement of nature. Grass Grows in Silence, the Moon and Sun move in silence, we are created in silence and we die into silence. We also touch souls through compassion and empathy…two emotions which are borne out of and created in our own place called “Silence”
2014 is going to be a time where I am going to embrace the great power of Silence. I do know that it will not be an easy thing but if I continue to realize the greatness that Silence can offer me, there is definite hope. I feel that my Higher Good is not served with chaos and discord. It is not served with gossip and drama nor worrying about what others think or say about me. It is about being still so that I am making decisions that ARE a benefit to my Higher and Greater Good.
Will you choose to Embrace the Silence?